Older Men and the Sex Drive

Friend of mine I were talking about sex the other day (Full Disclosure: We are not having sex with each other nor have we ever! He is cute though!) and he asked me “Well, don’t older men have diminished sex drives? I mean doesn’t it sort of wear off or something as you get older?”  He was, of course, referring to ME personally since he knows I try to be as sexually active as possible.  But it’s an interesting question.  Most of the men I know my age are still sexually active although to what degree I can’t say.  Except for a few of my personal encounters and I can truthfully tell you that, for us, the answer is “No, the sex drive is still very much alive and well.”

On the other hand, there are a couple of things that are relevant about having sex when you reach “the age” - past 50, let’s say.  At least drawing from my personal experience.  Yes, it does take a bit longer to have an orgasm. And yes, sometimes we have to use “devices” in order to keep “it” up (Thank God for my friend Jim’s shop, The Leather Rack). And as I’m sure most of you know Viagra, Cialis and Levitra cum in very handy too.  What about the volume of ejaculate?  Well this one is a bit more difficult to gauge.  I’ve known older guys who gush like they are still in their teens (the truly blessed!) but in general I would say that the amount of cum we produce is somewhat diminished. 

So where does this leave us older Daddies?  One thing that I truly appreciate about gay sex is the variety and range of sexual activity that we define as  “sex.”  Not like heteros where only full intercourse counts.  I have one friend who gets off on just giving blow jobs.  Nothing expected in return.  And I know a guy who is impotent but has a posse of young studs following his ass like white on rice.  Not sure what he does in bed but I’d like to take notes sometime. 

But for all you young guys out there who think that us older men are just dried up prunes, well, our skin may be a bit wrinkled, but when it comes to sex most of us are still able to get it on.  Just not as often maybe.  And let me clue you in on something else:  we’ve been there dudes.  We know what it means to “pleasure” our partners.   We have the experience you don’t have in relationships whether short or long and we take not a little pride in being able to make our lovers cum back for more.  And more. And more.  And more. (Anyone remember the late, great Madeline Kahn in “Blazing Saddles?”) Just the random thoughts. 

Have a good day guys. 

Love and Peace.  And do keep on making love.  It’s good for you!

Scott-tay